Puppy Love

Three little puppies.

Actually, I first noticed them because one of them wasn’t moving, although the other two were playing around her, frolicking about, and being generally joyful. I was in a small shop on the other side of the busy road, so I crossed over, and squatted down near the dirty brown bundle. She looked at me out of watery brown eyes, barked a little wuff as if to say, ‘Well, hello to you too’, and wagged the tip of her little tail. Her other two siblings came rushing over boisterously – another little female, and the boldest and friendliest of the trio, a little male who tried to play tag with my foot.

I looked around for their mother, knowing that I was probably looking in vain. Street puppies in India are often abandoned by their mothers as soon as they can survive, and this lot, at about one and a half months of age, must have been deemed fit to survive by their mother. She’d abandoned them where she’d probably had them and raised them, and here they were, playful, joyous, exuberant – and riddled with mange.

The mange was a problem. I knew it would be difficult to get them the help they needed because a) there isn’t a single shelter in Chennai that is no-kill and b) everyone I know who rescues animals privately (like my mum) are filled to capacity, and unable to take on any more. I called around, even though I knew it was hopeless, and then decided to let them take their chances on the mean streets of Chennai. I decided I’d help them, and to that end I paid a couple of people to move them close to where they already were, but an inner road, where they’d be safer than on the main road. Then I brought the vet to look at them, and he prescribed deworming tabs and medicine for their mange, which he assured me was the non-contagious kind. I decided I’d feed them everyday, and give them their medicines mixed into the food.

It worked. It worked well. For more than a week I drove to them twice a day, with food, water, and medicines, and they ate and drank. They learned to identify my car and they’d welcome me with wuffs and yaps. It was working.

Then it all turned sour. I went one day to discover that only two of them were there. The puppy I had met first, the female who was lying down while her siblings were playing, was missing. I asked around, searched as well as I could, and drove around looking for her. It was like looking for a needle in a haystack. She had vanished.

I continued to feed the other two, hoping the missing one had just gone wandering, and that she’d turn up. She didn’t.

Yesterday, I went there with their lunch, as I usually did, to discover that a bunch of people had apparently chased them away from where they were sheltering, and the boldest puppy, the sweet adventurous friendly little male, had rushed out onto the main road in a fright, and had been run over. I stared at the woman from the fruit stall nearby as she told me this, trying to stop the tears from leaping into my eyes. But they came anyway.

In an attempt to comfort me, she laid her hand on my arm. “Don’t cry”, she said. “They were just diseased puppies.”

I stared at her as I tried to gather my thoughts, and pulled my arm away. I walked down the little road trying to find the last puppy, but she wasn’t there. I looked everywhere; I even looked on a parallel road. She’s disappeared.

I sat in the car, staring unseeingly at the life that was going on around me. Yes, they were diseased. No, they weren’t particularly beautiful. Yes, their lives were probably worthless to almost everyone who looked at them.

But not to me.

I fought hard for them. I _wanted_ them to grow up. I tried to help. I believed then – as I do now – and as I always will – that they had a right to their lives. They wanted to live. They were full of life, and I respected that.

I went back today, hoping the last puppy may have wandered back. She was nowhere to be found. I asked around. Nobody’s seen her. She’s probably dead too.

I came away with tears in my eyes, because someone has to cry for these puppies, and it’s going to be me. It’s going to be the person who tried to help them to live; it’s going to be the person who tried to even their odds.

I’ll never forget them, because this is puppy love, and it lasts a lifetime.

Shut Up And Sing!

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Hello, 2014

It’s been far too long. I haven’t written here for months and months, and I suppose I should write a little about how much I missed my blog, and how much I longed to be able to share myself with the world again, but the truth is, I didn’t.

I mean, don’t get me wrong; I love my blog. I love that I can log in sometimes months later and find (as I did today) that people have left me messages telling me how much they support me and how much they love my writing. It’s gratifying, and somehow, those messages of support from you make me feel like all of this makes sense somehow. Thank you. It means the world to me that you feel that way about my writing; it’s humbling and energising at the same time.

I also discovered that I have gained 80 new followers over the past four months. Thank you, all of you, for following me, and for reading what I have to say, and for clamouring for more. I really am smiling from ear to ear; this blog now has 696 followers, and that is beyond brilliant!

But to get back to the reason why I didn’t miss my blog. It’s quite simple. I didn’t miss it because I was too busy being overwhelmed by life.

It’s been a difficult few months, and there have been a lot of changes. I barely know where to start updating you all. Suffice it to say that too much has happened; I have leased my lovely crazy kitchen-in-the-basement home to a very nice couple and have moved to my friend Saran’s house. Well, technically, it belongs to his parents, and they’re not using it, so here I am, living rent-free in a house that is much too big for just me (and three cats). It really is simply enormous; even the rooms have rooms here, if that makes sense. Three (four if you count the ground floor) floors of rooms; I’ve already had to cordon off quite a few of them and place them firmly off-limits to the cats. The last thing I want is for them to wander into one of the rooms where Saran’s family are storing gorgeous antique furniture, and huge big tapestries, and floor-to-ceiling paintings, and have them use them as scratching posts. I shudder at the thought!

So, in between the move, and all the stresses normally associated with moving, and saying goodbye (for the couple are leasing to buy) to my old home, there have also been a few other stressful things that my family and I have had to deal with. What with one thing and another, it was an absolutely rotten Christmas. I really never want another Christmas like that again, ever. What is usually one of my favourite holidays felt unendurable, and I longed for it all to be over more than once. Never again.

However, it is the New Year, and it feels just that – new. It feels freshly laundered, and clean, and sun-dried. It feels like I want to roll about in it and be grateful for being alive. I know people say that it’s still your life, and it’s just another day; well-meaning people can’t resist reminding us that absolutely nothing has changed, and that nothing will change unless we make the change happen. I understand all of that, and I do agree for the most part, but I disagree with them just a little bit. I know it’s still my life, but for some reason it just does _feel_ like a new year. It feels hopeful, and different, and just good. I know it won’t be perfect; it never is. Perfection doesn’t exist. But I think this year will be wonderful because I feel like it will. I’m quietly hopeful. Sometimes, I’m even exuberant.

Hello, 2014.

Bubbles of Excitement

I said something last week that I’m not particularly proud of.

During a moment of self-pity when I was bemoaning the tragedy of my life (as I put it so eloquently during that particular moment), and complaining to one of my best friends that I was surely beset with misfortune as I had not yet managed to have a child of my own, I also managed to say that I found it difficult to muster any excitement about new births and pregnancy announcements from my friends and acquaintances. Now, I should add that my friend has been trying to get pregnant for a while now, and has so far been unsuccessful. So at this point she said to me rather sadly that surely, SURELY, I would be excited for her if she managed to get pregnant.

I was morose and I told her to please not ‘ask me that today’. We then moved on to talk about other things. We have spoken almost every day since, but always of other things. But what I said to her has continued to bother me.

Knowing how difficult this journey has been for her, and looking at her journey through the lenses of my own journey, my reaction ought to have been different. I can offer no explanation and I certainly deserve no excuse. How could I not be excited about any of the births and pregnancy announcements of any of the people I care about? How is it possible that I imagined at that moment that I would not be able to ‘muster up’ enough excitement for her?

K, I am sorry I said that. I will be beyond excited for you. I will sing a song of happiness, and offer thanks to the Fates when you get pregnant. I will be with you every step along the way as you plan, and dream, and ultimately obsess about your unborn child. I will look at paint palettes for your nursery, and coo over nursery furniture, and send you links to maternity dresses that are still fashionable, and shoes that you will hopefully adore. I will bemoan the fact that I do not live where you live, because that will prevent me from being useful to you, and I will talk you out of any weird names that you might momentarily favour.

You will feel my love and happiness through every step of your journey, and when your child is born, I will love that child the way I love the children of all of my friends. I will be in love, from the first moment that s/he enters the world.

My happiness will be tangible and ever-present, and my excitement for you will bubble over.

That’s what I should have said. That’s what I know I feel, and will always feel, and I should have put my unhappiness aside and felt the boundless joy I always feel on behalf of the people I love when they succeed, accomplish, create, and achieve.

I love you.

F.O.O.D

Pista-chio. (Beautiful, expensive, rich.)
I have a bag of these, and I don’t know what to do with them. That’s rare for me; it’s rare that I don’t know what to do with an ingredient. But when it comes to these I’m torn. Should I save them for Diwali and add them to a sweet, made with thickened milk, sugar, and saffron? Or do I make them into a delicious cold ice cream? Or do I bake them into a cake? I don’t know. But I’d better decide soon, because whenever I take the bag down to look at it, I end up eating some.

Apple. (Crisp, cool, delicious.)
My mantra is to eat seasonal and buy local, and there is nothing more seasonal than apples during autumn. Mind you, we don’t really have autumn here. What rotten luck for me to miss my favourite season, although it is true. The leaves don’t even change colour here. Nothing dies, and nothing is reborn. But I always know where I am with apples. I can’t get enough of them lately. I add them to almost everything, and apple sauce does go well with chicken. Just saying.

Cof-fee. (Hot, steaming, black.)
When I’m working (translation: writing) I am addicted to coffee. I drink it in the morning, and then I drink it through the day. My grandfather liked his coffee sweet and strong, and that’s how I like my coffee too, although lately I’ve been drinking it black. My favourite thing to eat with coffee is a piece of buttery shortbread. It is my favourite elevenses. There is nothing quite like coffee and shortbread; they are the perfect marriage.

Yog-hurt. (Cold, creamy, gone.)
I make my own yoghurt. I have done for many years now. It’s always amusing to me when people buy yoghurt. I buy it as a starter and nothing more. Nothing compares to the joy I feel when I come down to the kitchen in the morning and the yoghurt’s done; it’s like some invisible creature came to it in the night and transformed my milk (which is exactly what happens, of course). It’s a beautiful thing; silky, creamy, glistening in the light. Alright, alright. Enough already.

Alm-ond. (Small, sweet, delicate.)
There was an almond tree in the garden of the rambling old house that I grew up in. I was amazed at discovering as a little girl that the purplish-pink fruit was actually an almond. My grandmother showed me how to get the fleshy husk off, and we used a meat tenderiser to whack the hard shell off. All that work yielded a teensy sliver of a nut that my grandmother gave me to eat, and I decided that it was the most gorgeous thing in the world. I was four years old. I think that was when my love for food was born; my habit of marveling at the world and the things in it. It is one of the most awesome memories I have of my grandmother; most of my good memories with her revolve around food.

Happy Anniversary, Blog.

I logged in this evening to find a Happy Anniversary post from WordPress. I Speak Awanthi is two years old.

I suppose I should have thrown my blog a party, as so many people seem to do, but the real honest truth of it is that I didn’t remember.

Two years old. It’s funny; in the past, in older blogs, I’ve never really been able to go back to my posts without cringing a little. Was I really that naive? Did I really say that? Was I really that sensitive? Did that seriously make me angry enough to write a blog post about it? And did I really need to write an I-Love-You-So-Much-I’m-Going-To-Cry post to Whatsisname?

See what I mean? Cringe. Double cringe.

But I’m apparently getting older and wiser, because I can go back two years ago to the very first post in this blog and I can read the things I wrote and they are still as relevant to me today as the day that I sat down and wrote them. This is a good thing. I’m never going to stop learning, but perhaps I’ve stopped cringing.

Perhaps.

There is so much going on in my life right now. There is so much change, and as with most change, it is causing me a great deal of stress. There are a lot of places I don’t want to be at the moment, and one of those places is my life. I am tired, overworked, ill, and barely coping. I am barely holding on, and it is freaking me out. I don’t deal with uncertainty as well as I used to. I miss the woman that I was; the woman who not only dealt with uncertainty, but who decimated it. The woman who picked up her life and moved on – and on – and on – and on. I want her back. I want to stop being her shadow.

One day at a time. One blog post at a time. One change at a time. One hurdle at a time. One anniversary at a time.

Happy Anniversary, blog.

Pity Us

Pity the daughters of beautiful women who by some twist of genetics do not end up looking like our gorgeous fashionable mothers, but looking more like ourselves instead. They will always be the yardsticks that we will never live up to, and many of us may spend our entire lives trying.

People will be unkind and tell us that we do not look like our mothers; even if they say nothing else, the suggestion is implied. You do not look like your mother. You look like yourself.

And in some worlds and in some universes that is somehow wrong; it is somehow a bad thing.

In my case it was extended family who told me almost every day that I didn’t look like my mother, with an aunt going so far as to call me ugly. Although I grew more sensitive as I got older, as a child I was far tougher than my adult self, and I just stared back at her unblinkingly. My lack of reaction must have been disconcerting because she never really used that word to describe me again.

My mother added her own fuel to the fire, although in her case I know that it was not meant unkindly, and was perhaps more unthinking than anything else. One day, as I was adoringly watching her dress as she sat at her dressing table, as she delicately sprayed perfume at her wrists and at the nape of her neck, with a spray on my wrists for a treat, and as she applied red to her full mouth as my eyes took it all in, wide-eyed, she turned to me and said, ‘Oh, darling. I do wish you looked like me.’

From that moment on I wished it too. I would often stare for hours at myself in the mirror, hating every feature, every single thing that made me me. My eyes are large and set wide apart and my mouth full and nearly always turned down in a permanent sulk that is less about sulking and more about the way that it usually looks. I pulled at my snub nose trying somehow to make it longer and straighter, and more like my mum’s pretty nose. I poked and prodded at myself and I decided that I simply wasn’t enough.

This was tragic because I set myself up for a lifetime of disappointment. You see, women are frequently told that we’re never enough. We’re never slim enough, tall enough, pretty enough, hairless enough; our hair is never shiny enough; our teeth aren’t white enough; we simply aren’t flawless enough. We’re not perfect enough. Somebody forgot to mention to advertising agencies the world over that we’re not meant to be perfect, and that it is the imperfections that are endearing, but nobody really says that in an advertisement. They scream at us from the radio and from the television, and from hoardings that we can’t miss even when we’re the ones dodging other vehicles in peak traffic: YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH.

You are not enough.

Most of us will live our entire lives trying to catch up to simply being enough, and we will strive for perfection because it’s what we do. We will strive to be perfect girlfriends, wives, and mothers; we will strive to be perfect at work; we will strive to be perfect best friends. We will even strive to be perfect daughters to the mothers that we don’t look like. We will strive so hard that we will push ourselves to levels of stress and feelings of failure even when we haven’t failed, and we will have breakdowns, and we will cry alone in the bathroom in the middle of the night, and some of us will experience full-on depression for which some of us will seek treatment, and the rest of us won’t.

Because we’re not enough.

But here’s the thing. We are enough. You are enough. Today is the only today that matters, and tomorrow is just another today that hasn’t begun yet. One day, years from now, on a whole other today, you will realise that all of those yesterdays where you felt that you were not enough, you were. You were more than enough. You were a champion. You were a star. You took everything that they threw at you and you asked for more. Because it’s what you do.

You are enough.

So do yourself a favour. Tell yourself you’re enough. And if you’re a beautiful mother of a daughter who doesn’t look like you, you tell her she’s beautiful.

You tell her she’s enough.

Yesterday’s Whisper

I understand that searing desire to speak and to be heard. I have it too. As much as all of me yearns for proof and dismisses outright your beliefs for facts, there are times when I long for your faith. Things seem easier for you, somehow, and yet I know that faith in the unseen cannot be easy. Most of me thinks that you are wrong even as I envy your ability to converse, to ask, to praise, to plead.

In moments of utter loneliness I also reach out to the darkness, only to hear nothing; nothing but my own voice echoes back at me. So I sit here on my perennial fence, looking at you, but refusing to step forward to join you because I think that at the end of the day you are only talking to yourself, asking – yourself, praising – yourself, pleading with – yourself.

There is much in the world that science is yet unable to explain and yet faith is unable to explain it as well; nothing can explain some things and you ask too much of me. You ask me to believe and I cannot believe in something I cannot touch, cannot see, cannot hear, cannot feel.

I watch your conversations as you kneel, rise, sway, mutter, moan, sing, and I envy your belonging, for I belong nowhere, and with no-one. I feel as fragile as you feel, but my fragility is different from yours. Yours resides in your faith and in your community, but mine resides in me alone.

To me your conversations are all yesterday’s whispers, and they are lost in the wind, and gone forever, just as mine are. But while mine went unheard, I envy your belief that somebody heard yours.

All the time in the world…

She’d often thought about her life in the way that we all think about our lives. She’d thought about the things she wanted, or thought she wanted. She’d thought about the things she would have liked to do. She’d thought about the difference that she’d make, perhaps even to one person, and she’d thought about her life in the context of being a part of something with someone else.

Sometimes, when she was being overly optimistic, which in her case was rare, she thought she might make someone else with the other person too, a someone to raise and love and teach, a someone to leave to the world.

She’d often thought that looking back at life was like opening a window somehow, and looking through the window into the past. You looked into the past through the window of the present, trying to peer through the bars of memory, and perhaps, just perhaps, things were as you remembered them.

But then again, perhaps they were not.

She had been a thin serious little child who was often seen and not heard, in the accepted manner of children everywhere during the time that she had grown up; anyone wanting to peek into her life only had to look at the photographs on the mantelpiece of her parents’ home. There she was, excelling in school, and winning medals, and there she was, with people fawning all over her, telling her she had it in her to be anything she wanted. She knew, deep in her heart, that what she wanted more than anything was to be a writer. She wanted it almost as much as she wanted to be a mum.

She had dreamed of travel, but had never travelled very far; she had dreamed of moving to a big busy city a long way away, but she had never really left home. She hadn’t left home in the way that true adventurers leave home, with their worlds on their backs. She had once been abroad as part of a youth group trip, and she had been equally amazed and terrified; the notion that the world as a whole existed outside of her tiny sleepy little town was one she had known and not realised, having never given it much thought beyond vague desires she knew she would never have the courage to chase.

She moved out in her early twenties and went to university like most of her friends; like most of her friends she had tasted the brief freedom that came with those years. She had been serious and intense and most decidedly not fun. She was not fun enough, although one young man had been enamoured and had chased her, spiritedly. She enjoyed it, but enjoyed allowing him to catch her, and her eyes opened wide that first afternoon they had spent in bed, as he showed her what she had never realised. He showed her what her body was capable of, and what their bodies were capable of together. She had felt powerful and beautiful and wanted, and the feeling was like a drug.

She’d attended parties and meetings, and smoked her first cigarette, which she had hated. She’d attended parties – real parties, with noise and music and sweaty gyrating bodies, with the smells of cheap perfume and talc and cigarette smoke in the air – but her mind was always far away, even when she was dancing with him, kissing him on the dance floor where everyone could see them. She knew her parents would never approve but she also knew that they had had their chance to live their lives and although they were responsible for the fact that she was in the world, this life, this life was hers.

The night they called her to tell her that he had died in a car accident on the freeway had been the worst night of her life; her hands were numb at the thought of him lying on the asphalt with the rain and the broken glass and the twisted metal around him, his body twisted like everything else around him, his body which would never touch her body again. He had been coming to see her and the thought of that crushed her like nothing else. Her parents had thought her unnatural for refusing to cry but they had never understood – and nor had anyone else – that she had been unable to cry. She had stood beside his grave, a widow before she had ever become a wife, her face pale but composed. She couldn’t cry, and it was a mystery to her. She thought she was as cold as everybody else thought she was.

The tears had come much later, in private, in bed, and soaked through her pillow. She thought she would never cry like that again, and she didn’t. She stayed in bed crying for a day, calling in sick at the secretarial job she had landed, and had to wear dark glasses for two days following, because her eyes were so red and weary. Life became coloured in shades of tired and she struggled to do the things she always did. She wrote to a friend complaining about the pain of living, of inhaling and exhaling.

She gave up her little apartment and moved back in with her parents, intending to only stay until she felt better again. She never felt better again.

She tried to ‘put herself out there’ and ‘meet more men’ as her friends urged her to do, but it was tiresome and she thought the men were uninteresting. She liked nothing better than to be left alone when she finished work, curling up with a book, or looking out of the window and remembering how it had all been.

She knew she would never find another him again, but she was horrible at saying no, and hated to disappoint her friends, and so she tried, over and over again, for them, although it left her feeling miserable and broken. As much as he had ever made her feel beautiful and powerful, she now only constantly felt powerless.

When her mother fell ill she was a devoted nurse, and cared for her for many years. But her mother’s death, which had been inevitable for some time, shook her. It is always hard to lose a parent.

Her father followed some years later, and life continued, as it always does. She was now the owner of the home in which she had grown up, an adult remembering the long-gone echoes of the child’s voice.

Her constant companions were a series of cats whom she doted on. She came to call them her children, her furry children who needed her even when nobody else did.

Her friends all had teenage children by now and she was listening to all of their complaints, assuring and reassuring, forever playing the part of their doting friend, and aunt to the children who knew her and did not. She only ever gave them books as presents and most of them did not appreciate the gift of a good read.

She tried over and over again to get her books published, and began to collect all the rejection letters she had ever received. She told herself over and over again that one day she would have a book accepted and she would know what it felt like, for once, to make something, something to leave to the world.

One day she had looked in the mirror and had been taken aback at the face that was looking back at her. She had never realised how much older she had become; time had slipped by while she was too busy inhaling and exhaling.

Forty years is a long time to be someone’s secretary, but she had also done many more things in the company she had worked in; she had become invaluable and people were genuinely sorry to see her go. She had been given a little gold watch that she wore sometimes with her good dresses when she had to go out, or to the church, where she went sometimes. She had never quite understood the significance of god; she just knew that she never believed that an entity could exist who would then revel in so much death and sorrow and suffering and there was too much pain in the world for a god. But she went to church because she had a vague sense of it being the right thing to do, and she usually did the right things.

When Mr Tibbins died of old age she didn’t get another cat, and she missed desperately the quiet companionship that they offered. But she was genuinely terrified that she would die one day and that nobody would care about any cat she owned. She was vaguely aware that it was the right thing to do by the cat.

She tried to send her books off to new publishers far and wide, and got her last rejection letter the day before she died.

She died in the house she had been born in and she died in her sleep, flitting away quietly in the night, unnoticed, much like the way she had lived.

She was buried, as per her instructions, in the plot beside her parents, and her house was sold, as per her instructions, and the money divided among the many children of her friends, who had never liked her gifts of books, but who appreciated the money. They thought good thoughts of her. Many of them had children of their own.

Her lawyer was surprised to receive a letter from a publisher not long after the sale of her house, offering to publish the book she had sent them. He thought about it for a while, before agreeing to the publisher’s terms. He set up an estate in her name, with the children of her friends as the beneficiaries. He was vaguely aware that it was what she would have wanted, perhaps.

A top newspaper added her book to its bestseller list, calling her the treasure the world allowed to slip through its fingers.

Nobody would have been more surprised.

She had once wanted to leave something to the world.

Random Thoughts While I Make Biscuits

When you live your life out on social media, open and absolute, there comes a moment when people begin to take you for granted. They think that they know everything there is to know about you, and with that assumption comes a tendency to demand that you do things, say things, and remain an ever-present update in the home page of their lives.

This isn’t a whinge; it’s merely an observation. I’ve often been told that people ‘hide’ behind the internet; they think they can be trolls, or jerks, or that real manners don’t count on the internet because people don’t have feelings here; that somehow insults and abuse and rudeness typed becomes less simply because it’s on your screen in black and white rather than in your actual physical location coming out of a sentient being with a voice that grates on your body, heart, and soul. Somehow, just because your username is probably not the name your parents named you, because it doesn’t have to make sense or even count as anything with or without meaning, that you cease to be everything you expect of yourself, everything you expect of everyone else.

Perhaps it does become true after a while that certain people simply develop reputations as jerks and one therefore avoids them, ignores them, and treats them with the contemptuous disdain that they surely deserve; what then becomes of the jerk? Does the jerk have feelings? Does the jerk expect the reaction all the time or do they expect tears and fears? When that reaction is no longer forthcoming, do the jerks then tell themselves that the insults are less simply because it’s on their screen in black and white rather than in their actual physical locations coming out of sentient beings with voices that grate on their bodies, hearts, and souls?

And what of people like me who remain polite, despite sometimes feeling not quite up to it? What happens when we continue to be ourselves because we believe that we are accountable no matter where or how we are? I believe that good manners count for something; that kindness is the only absolute thing. I would rather be nice than not; I don’t mind that people send me irritated e-mails asking me to update my blog, or demanding to know why I’m not on Twitter or asking me to update Facebook. I don’t mind because I know that I chose this, and in some small fashion, I know I am missed when I take some time off, when I simply want to be alone, and not the Awanthi that everyone thinks they know. I keep something back; not all is an open book, but I cannot expect everyone to know that.

I suppose that this rather wind-about post is simply about pondering online presence and internet behaviour, and about the assumptions that come with it, and the personas people hide behind or in front of; the people that they become because someone else labels their behaviour and now they are forever either good or evil for a given definition of both. I suppose I was merely thinking today, at some stage, that this made sense somehow, to tie the two in together and wonder about things that other people assume and that I know, or perhaps it’s the other way around.

I’ll tell you tomorrow.